Source: "The Social Guidebook to Norway 2"

Many Norwegians have a hytte*

This is a good example of a social bubble

If they make friends at the hytte these are hyttevenner*

It means that they are friends with them at the hytte

Only at the hytte

They cannot invite them for dinner when they are in the city

Even if they live in the same city

Or the same neighborhood

You both own a hytte next to each other

There is a reason to create a social connection

And you have a frame to socialize and common things to talk about

How to renovate the hytte, clean the garden, etc.

It is safe when you are at the hytte and talk about the hytte

If you sit in silence at the hytte

It will not be an awkward silence

Because you are hyttevenner at the hytte

 In town, you are outside that secure hytte framework

What if you have nothing else to talk about?

And it is silence

Silence is awkward with hyttevenner in the city

The risk is too high for potential awkwardness

It is much better to hang out with city friends in the city

Social bubbles that form around frame activities are rigid

Relationships relate to a precise setting, time and place

They are closely linked to a frame activity


The friends you are friends with at the hytte

Only at the hytte



Source: "The Social Guidebook to Norway"


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